How to Deal With Teen School Refusal

Is your teen refusing to go to school? Are they facing truancy? Truancy is a term used to describe any intentional unauthorized absence from compulsory schooling.

Children in America today lose over five million days of their education each year through school refusal that leads to truancy.

Does this sound familiar?

-Discovered your teen has stopped going to school?
-Notice your teen hasn’t been attending classes?
-Say the teachers are dumb?
-Tell you school is stupid and they don’t need it?
-Does your teen want to quit school?

Maybe your teen has become withdrawn, isolated, depressed — not wanting to leave their room.

Understanding “why” teens skip school, can help keep them in class.

Often times they do this without the knowledge of their parents or school officials. In common usage the term typically refers to absences caused by students of their own free will, and usually does not refer to legitimate “excused” absences, such as ones related to a medical condition. It may also refer to students who attend school but do not go to classes.

Because of this confusion many schools have their own definitions, and as such the exact meaning of the term itself will differ from school to school and district to district. In order to avoid or diminish confusion, many schools explicitly define the term and their particular usage thereof in the school’s handbook of policies and procedures. In many instances truancy is the term referring to an absence associated with the most brazen student irresponsibility and results in the greatest consequences.

Many educators view truancy as something much more far reaching than the immediate consequence that missed schooling has on a student’s education. School refusal that leads to truancy may indicate more deeply embedded problems with the student, the education they are receiving, or both.

Because of its traditional association with juvenile delinquency, truancy in some schools may result in an ineligibility to graduate or to receive credit for class attended, until the time lost to truancy is made up through a combination of detention, fines, or summer school.

What causes school refusal and how it can lead to truancy?

The reason a student misses school will for different depending on the age and circumstances of each student. Sometimes a student will skip school because they feel unsafe at school or on their way to or from school. Other students may miss school because of family issues, financial demands, substance abuse, or mental health problems.

Factors contributing to truancy commonly stem from three core areas: school, family and community. Innate student characteristics and their experiences within all these areas will have a heavy impact on truancy rates.

Bad Influences

One of the common causes of truancy and disruptive behavior in children is the influence of friends and peers. The teen’s natural instinct to want to be a part of a larger crowd or group dynamic will take over, even if they are taught better habits. Often times this same dynamic is prevalent in the face of any resistance the child may put forth, prompting teasing or goading the child into truanting.

School

What is classed as truancy can depend largely on the school’s attitude to the ‘truant’ or their problems. Relationships with teachers, seen as lacking respect/fairness, play a large factor in truancy rates among children. Often times this inability to get along with teachers and/or students will result in disciplinary problems which may lead to suspension, or expulsion.

Of course, being away from the school either voluntarily or at the school’s demand can have an adverse affect on the student’s academic performance, resulting in not being able to keep up with school work, getting poor grades, or even failing. A school may also be remiss in not notifying parents/guardians of absences.

Bullying and Cyberbullying

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Closely related to the issue of a teen’s relationship with school is the matter of bullying. Bullying is a prime component (as well as cyberbullying) in the making of an unsafe school environment; if a teen does not feel safe at school, or on the way to/from school, they are much more likely to become to stop going to school and become truant.

Bullying occurs for many reasons and it goes beyond the one isolated instance of harassment either because of teachers’ inability to control, or problems arising from the child’s own personality or learning abilities. A parent might say they’re keeping their child off school because they’re being bullied. The school might call it truancy.

Personal Matters

Individual (personal) factors related to teen truancy include: lack of self-esteem/social skills/confidence; poor peer relations; lack of academic ability; special needs; and lack of concentration/self-management skills. Professionals have identified that many chronically truant children had a job, had a family to support, or had trouble managing both school and work, thus forcing them to make a choice between personal life and school.

Often times the risky behaviors are further instigated if the teen develops or has already developed an alcohol or drug problem.

Conclusion

A parent must be proactive in better understanding their teen’s life — both offline and online. If you find out your teen is missing school or refusing to go to school, dig deeper. Talk to their school counselor, open lines of communication, if necessary encourage your teen to talk to a therapist.

It is hard to force a teenager to do anything, however education is not a choice, it’s part of growing up — and as a parent it is our job to encourage them and find out what you can do to help. What exactly is troubling them — be involved to get them back on track, even if you need to ask for help from a counselor.

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