Schools for Troubled Teens - Help Your Teens https://helpyourteens.com Tue, 23 Apr 2024 18:16:31 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.4 https://helpyourteens.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/cropped-PURE-logo-32x32.png Schools for Troubled Teens - Help Your Teens https://helpyourteens.com 32 32 How Are Schools for Troubled Teens Successful? https://helpyourteens.com/how-are-schools-for-troubled-teens-successful/ Tue, 23 Apr 2024 18:16:30 +0000 https://helpyourteens.com/?p=45295 Are schools for troubled teens successful? Will a therapeutic boarding school be effective for your difficult teenager? One online search for “schools for troubled teens” will yield you over 5 million results. Are therapeutic boarding schools effective for your troubled teen and how do you know which ones are safe? There are literally thousands of places to send troubled teens, […]

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Are schools for troubled teens successful? Will a therapeutic boarding school be effective for your difficult teenager?

One online search for “schools for troubled teens” will yield you over 5 million results. Are therapeutic boarding schools effective for your troubled teen and how do you know which ones are safe?

There are literally thousands of places to send troubled teens, but finding the one that is successful for your teen takes time, research and diligence.

What does your teen and family require:

-Quality care (safe and positive environment), credentialed staff
-Education, accredited academics
-Enrichment programs, extra-curriculum designed to encourage change
-Parent involvement, workshops and family therapy

Successful therapeutic boarding schools for troubled teens can be a safe haven where teens can learn to cope with difficult emotions and behaviors; away from the influences of devices as well as negative peers.

Is your teen:

Addicted to their cell-phone, video gaming?
-Defiant, rage, or explosive (especially if you remove their devices)?
-Failing in school, yet capable of passing? Skipping classes or school refusal?
-Entitled, disrespectful, nasty attitude – more than typical teenage behavior?
Vaping, smoking marijuana, using drugs or drinking?
-Stealing, shoplifting or other legal issues?

You’re not alone and these are some of the reasons why parents have reached out for help for troubled teens — it’s after they have tried therapy at home, outpatient treatment has failed, the school setting is not working and a short hospital stay was not successful.

3 Reasons Why Schools for Troubled Teens Can Be Successful

Not all therapeutic boarding schools are designed the same or are equal, it is why we encourage parents to do their diligence in selecting what school/program is the right boarding school for their individual needs. As with all businesses, there will always be a few bad apples.

1. Fresh start.

There’s no doubt, the first few weeks, if not your first month of a therapeutic boarding school might be bumpy, but your teenager will soon realize they are now being given an opportunity for a fresh start. 

No one enjoys feeling defiant, angry, and even full of rage — many of these teens not only had these feelings, but some were also destructive at home. Most of these young people enter the program extremely upset that their parents have removed them from what they believed was their comfort zone such as their so-called friends and of course, their devices (cellphone and/or video-gaming).

By starting fresh they can remove the masks of the emotional baggage they have been carrying and start tearing down the walls of hurt while in a safe place of non-judgement. This is why therapeutic boarding schools can be more beneficial than the one-hour once a week therapy sessions at-home.

Your teen is now in an environment that is designed to encourage change through a consistent, safe, and positive atmosphere. This replaces the toxic headspace your teen has likely been in for the past year. Constantly checking their text messages, feeling pressured by their peers, scrolling their social feeds, always comparing themselves to others online — feeling inadequate. 

Many parents are worried their teen will meet up with kids that are worse than their own teen. It is important to understand, there are many families walking this journey with you. If you are doing your diligence in finding the right therapeutic boarding school for your teenager, it’s likely you will find similar students — and your son or daughter will soon be surrounded with a positive peer culture that will only help influence them as they move through the program.

2. Develop self-worth.

Why is my good teen making these bad choices? It is usually because they don’t think highly of themselves and are easily influenced by their peers — or a negative peer group.

A successful therapeutic boarding school removes your teen from the stressors and triggers of home and school pressure and replaces it with activities and treatment such enrichment programs that build self-worth. This can include art therapy, sports, music therapygardeninganimal therapy and more.

Academically, a therapeutic boarding school that is effective, can provide your teen with the support they need to thrive! Most students arriving in residential treatment can do their schoolwork however due to their behavioral issues, have been failing or underachieving. By getting their grades back in place, this is yet another direction to building back their self-confidence.

When you have self-worth and feel good about yourself, you are less likely to make bad choices and are not easily influenced by your peers. Schools for troubled teens that are successful provide the environment to help your teen feel good about themselves — through emotional growth, clinical support (both individual and group therapy), and positive role models with their staff.

3. Family reunification. 

Bringing families back together, that is the goal of a successful troubled teen school — in healthy and happy setting. Although there will likely never be perfection (life isn’t perfect), you and your teen will learn the skills needed to have a much calmer and productive household.

A successful troubled teen school doesn’t only affect your teenager, but it also effects the entire family.  This includes siblings and if there are stepparents involved, it is everyone.

Family therapy is ongoing throughout your child’s stay at the school, and typically the parents will have counseling with and without their teen. In most of the therapeutic boarding schools they offer parenting workshops to give you skills and techniques to provide you with tools for effective parenting — understanding that whatever was happening before your teen entered the program wasn’t working. Especially as the program progresses to the transitional phrase of home visits, you and your teen will have time to discuss what is expected from both sides, respectfully.

Through treatment and transition, with the guidance of professionals, parents and their teen can achieve peace and confidence through rebuilding their relationship with the help of an effective therapeutic boarding school.

Also read:

5 Benefits of Therapeutic Boarding Schools

Where to Send Your Troubled Teens

What Causes Teen Mental Health Issues

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Schools for Troubled Teens 101 https://helpyourteens.com/schools-for-troubled-teens-101/ Thu, 18 Jan 2024 15:20:00 +0000 https://helpyourteens.com/?p=43038 Searching for schools for troubled teens online can be tedious and confusing. If this is your first time searching for therapeutic boarding schools for your teenager, you will need insights before making this major decision. 5 Things Parents Need to Know Before Searching for Schools for Troubled Teens Military schools are a privilege and honor […]

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Searching for schools for troubled teens online can be tedious and confusing. If this is your first time searching for therapeutic boarding schools for your teenager, you will need insights before making this major decision.

5 Things Parents Need to Know Before Searching for Schools for Troubled Teens

  1. My teen needs a Military school to teach them a lesson!” WRONG.

Military schools are a privilege and honor to attend, they are not for defiant, drug-using, depressed, or other behavioral issues students.

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They do not provide mental health services – and if your teen is using drugs, drinking, or vaping now – by attending an open campus, it is likely s/he will consider the use again.

However, this time when he is caught (typically three strike you are out) and the parents will forfeit their tuition. This is the same for any of the behavioral issues they are asked to leave or expelled for – you will be risking your tuition as well as setting your child up for failure.

2. “My teen needs a wilderness program to appreciate what they have at home.” WRONG.

Wilderness programs are short-term programs will typically short-term results. It usually did not take 4-6 weeks to get to where you are right now, it will not take 4-6 (or 9 for that matter) to turn it around or have long-lasting behavioral results. Parents are usually guided (or misguided) into wilderness therapy by educational consultants that understand these programs come with step two.

Step two is moving on to a therapeutic boarding school (which you could have started with). We educate parents to find step one initially so your teen has consistency without program hopping. This not only helps your teenager from bouncing to therapists, staff, and environments – it can be most cost effective to the family.

Since 2001 we have consistently heard many misconceptions about wilderness programs – and parents need to separate fact from the myths.

Myths and Facts of Wilderness Therapy:

Myth: Many parents are led to believe that most quality residential programs will not accept a teen that has not completed a wilderness program. That simply is not true. 

Myth: Any teen that is using drugs needs to do a wilderness first. This is not true.

Myth: All teens do wilderness first, if not they will not succeed. Again, not true.

Fact: Wilderness programs are not necessary to enter a many therapeutic boarding schools and residential treatment centers.

Fact: Wilderness programs are an expensive band-aid. They will cost a family from $450-700+ per day and the duration is about 4-9 weeks. The fact is — long lasting behavioral changes cannot take place in short-term programs. Therefore, most students that attend wilderness programs transition on to a residential boarding school.

There is likely a need for wilderness therapy for some students, but to state that all teens need wilderness prior to treatment or will not be successful without it — is simply untrue.

You will stumble on programs that will tell you they won’t accept a student unless they have attended a wilderness program first — in our opinion, it likely not the program for you. Most therapeutic boarding schools or residential treatment facilities (schools for troubled teens) are trained to care for behavioral issues — it is likely they are either a transitional program or part of a bigger concern in this industry — politics (number 5).

Some programs use wilderness as a last resort, if after 90 days in a therapeutic boarding school your teen is not settling down or has become extremely defiant and aggressive – they may then refer you to this type of program. It does not need to be your first step.

3. What is the difference between a therapeutic boarding school (TBS) and residential treatment center (RTC) and what does my teen need?

The short answer is it depends on the state and how the state licenses residential programming.  There is no national standard and each of our fifty states have the responsibility to set their own licensure requirements for private-pay residential programming; many states divide up the enforcement between numerous governmental departments and some states do not even regulate private-pay residential care. The scope and specifics of state regulations vary greatly, and some states do not require independent licensure at all.  Therefore, parents must do their diligence when researching residential placement – knowing that the program does have state licensing is important.

What these programs all have in common is that they are all addressing physical, emotional, behavioral, familial, social, and intellectual/academic development; it is how that is addressed which differentiates between the TBS or RTC.

RTC’s typically have more clinical care than a TBS, however we have also seen emotional growth programs that have a strong clinical foundation. We suggest you interview the program/school that you believe best fits your teen’s emotional needs, which includes their enrichment therapies such as animal, art, music therapy and more. It is important to find a setting that will stimulate your child in a positive direction.

4. What is CARF and JCAHO accreditations? Are they necessary in choosing residential treatment?

CARF is Commission on Accreditation of Rehabilitation Facilities is an organization that oversees programs for behavioral health. If a program/school is CARF accredited, in some cases you may have a more insurance coverage. CARF accreditation can be considered a quality standard of care.

JCAHO is The Joint Commission on the Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations which is the seal of approval for hospitals, and some residential treatment centers have acquired this accreditation. JCAHO is a higher level of care, although many residential treatment centers are not JCAHO accredited, they will adhere by their standards. Being JCAHO accredited will help your insurance coverage.

More and more therapeutic programs are becoming CARF accredited not only to provide more safety and oversight for their staff and students, but to offer more reimbursement for insurance claims.

JCAHO is typically found in higher level of care facilities, although some residential treatment centers have that extra level of accreditation.

Both these accreditations are important; however, they are not necessary. For years residential treatment has been operating without them and have been successful. These are voluntary accreditations.

5. What is NATSAP and IECA seals of approval that are some programs sites? 

NATSAP is the National Association of Therapeutic Schools and Programs. This is a self-made organization that was reprimanded in a congressional hearing in 2007 for their lack of oversight of their members. Participating programs and schools pay a fee to be members to have their seal of approval on their sites.

More concerning is some parents are under the illusion that unless a program is NATSAP approved, it is not a quality program. That is simply not true. Not all schools and programs feel the need to be a member of this club, nor do they have to. Unlike CARF or JCAHO, it (NATSAP) does not offer much in benefits.

IECA are the Independent Educational Consultants of America, and their members are known as Educational Consultants that pay the fees to belong to this self-made organization. Like with NATSAP, they have their own circle of schools and programs they support and unlikely to consider those that do not want to participate (pay) to belong to private clubs.

There are many excellent schools and programs in our country today that have been around for decades that have never been involved in private organizations (clubs) and have succeeded on their reputation. It is important for parents not to be dissuaded by the politics of the troubled teen industry.

Also read:

Success in Therapeutic Boarding Schools

Finding Safe Therapeutic Schools

Goals of Therapeutic Boarding Schools

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Help for Troubled Teens Parent Questions and Answers https://helpyourteens.com/help-for-troubled-teens-parent-questions-and-answers/ Tue, 29 Aug 2023 22:49:19 +0000 https://helpyourteens.com/?p=35650 Are you at your wit’s end with your defiant teenager? Find yourself online searching for places to send troubled teens and realize you have so many questions?   First you are bombarded with websites, marketing and new terminology that can be confusing and overwhelming especially when you are stressed out and exhausted by your teen’s behavior. […]

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Are you at your wit’s end with your defiant teenager? Find yourself online searching for places to send troubled teens and realize you have so many questions?  

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First you are bombarded with websites, marketing and new terminology that can be confusing and overwhelming especially when you are stressed out and exhausted by your teen’s behavior.

After decades of helping families that are searching for the right behavioral boarding school for their struggling teen or young adult, we complied the top 5 most asked questions and answers by parents.

5 Questions Parents Ask About Placing Their Teen in Troubled Youth Programs:

1. “Should our teen help us choose the therapeutic boarding program?”

Absolutely, positively not. Up until this point of their life, they have not been making the best choices, what would convince you that they would make the right one now?

Again, with decades of experience, parents have attempted to work with their teens in hopes they would be excited about a school or a program, getting a new start – or possibly the animals or sports that the program offers, however what happens next can be anything but excitement.

Your child will start doing their own research online, telling their friends, and realizing they will not be able to take their phones, talk to friends, they will be on a schedule and life will not be the rainbows and unicorns they have been used to. In some situations, they might even miss holidays or birthdays.

If your teen is a flight risk, you are giving them time to better map out their surroundings by telling them where they will be going – or even where you are considering sending them. It is never wise for a parent to threaten a child that they will be sent away, this only starts the program off with a sense of negativity.

It is the child’s behavior that has prompted you to make this decision, no parent simply wants to send a child to residential for no reason. Every parent has their child’s wellness in the forefront.

This is a time for parents to be the parents, make the adult decision for the child that needs help. If you are placing a young adult, it is different. At 18+ years old they do have to be willing to attend. In most of these young adults’ programs your child can speak with the director and other students and get a full understanding of the program. Some young adults know they need this extra boost.

2. “My teen won’t attend a program; how do we get him/her there?”

This is probably one of the most common questions parents ask and are concerned about. Assisted transport is how most parents have successfully and safely brought their teen to residential treatment.

It is especially important to choose qualified and credentialed professionals. The transport service should be licensed and insured to transport teens and have various degrees and/or background in education, psychology, behavioral science, mental health, or other related fields.

It is natural for parents to be apprehensive about this, however after speaking with other parents that have taken this road, you will realize that many of these teens ended up becoming friends with their transports and it is not the nightmare they are imagining. They may initially be angry, but deep down your teen understands they do need help.

3. “I fear my teen will hate me forever if I send them to a therapeutic boarding school.”

Again, another quite common concern of parents, especially parents of adopted children that fear that they will exasperate abandonment issues, is will their teen hate them forever if they are sent to a therapeutic boarding school?

Initially your teen may enter the program and not like you very much (it may feel like hate to you and them) but — they will grow from their fear and anger.

Your teen will likely fear the new situation and may also promise to “do better at home” however you know that you have already heard all these promises and spent a long time trying. It is time to be the adult, be the parent and do what is best for your child.

It is at this time that talking to other parents can be incredibly supportive for you — parents that have taken this journey before you, maybe from the same program you have selected for your teen.

As the program progresses, family therapy and workshops continue to reunite all of you and work through the conflict that tore you apart. Eventually your teen will be able to understand and have gratitude for this experience.

4. “My teen is very smart; will he/she fall behind academically?”

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When these teens enter boarding schools for troubled teens, most of them were A, B students and are now underachieving or barely attending classes. Many parents were dealing with school refusal, the simple act of getting out of bed to attend school was impossible.

Therapeutic settings first and foremost get your teen back on track emotionally, but they will also be working on your teenager’s academics.

Now that your teen is in a structured and consistence environment, they become more focused and start feeling good about themselves, which helps them to improve academically – either to get caught up or surpass where they were at their school at home.

5. “Don’t these programs have bad kids; my child isn’t that bad?”

 If no one had troubled teens or young adults, there would not be any need residential treatment facilities. Most schools for troubled teens are enrolled with good kids that come from good families, possibly had a good foundation, however, took a wrong turn.

The increase of technology has not helped this generation, screen-addiction, social media – they are not only facing peer pressure at school, but it is also in the palm of their hands 24/7/365.

Doing your due diligence in researching boarding schools helps you to be sure you are placing your teen in the most appropriate setting. Your teen will be with kids like themselves – and their families are like you, begging for help to get their child back to happiness and a functioning adult.

Read: 5 Components to Your Teen’s Aftercare Plan.

Read: 5 Benefits to a Therapeutic Boarding School.

Read: What Is a Christian Therapeutic Boarding School?

Read: What Is the Cost of Therapeutic Boarding Schools?

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Do you have more questions? Are you considering a therapeutic boarding school for your teenager? Contact us for a free consultation. Since 2001 we have been helping parents find the right schools for their family.

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When Should I Send My Teen Away? https://helpyourteens.com/when-should-i-send-my-teen-away/ Mon, 14 Aug 2023 21:21:00 +0000 https://helpyourteens.com/?p=35388 Parenting difficult teenagers today has become harder than ever before thanks to technology. “When should I send my teen away to a school for troubled teens?” In many situations, your teenager is a good teen making some really poor choices, but at this point it has escalated to more than typical teenage behavior — you […]

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Parenting difficult teenagers today has become harder than ever before thanks to technology. “When should I send my teen away to a school for troubled teens?”

In many situations, your teenager is a good teen making some really poor choices, but at this point it has escalated to more than typical teenage behavior — you are at your wit’s end.

Are you experiencing:

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-Social media or video gaming addiction?
-Cell-phone addiction?
-Depression, anxiety, withdrawn?
-Defiant, rage, destructive?
-School avoidance, skipping classes, school refusal?
-Smart teen however now failing classes?
-Dropping out of their once favorite activities?
-Changing friends or becoming isolated, staying in their room?
-Vaping, using drugs and/or drinking (self-medicating)?
-Sneaking out, running away?
-Stealing from you or others?
-Disrespectful, rude, moody?
-Entitled, bratty, spoiled?
-Self-harm, suicidal thoughts?

Much of the above listed on their own or for a short period of time can be typical teenage behavior but when a few or more of these behaviors escalate and a parent losses control over their teenager — it’s time to seek professional help.

Prior determining if you need to send your teen to a therapeutic boarding school, it’s always best to first exhaust your local resources.

5 Local Options – Help For Your Troubled Teen

1. Local therapy. With teenagers this isn’t always easy, since some will refuse to attend or will stop engaging with their therapist. What can be more frustrating is when they start manipulating the counselor. Since the pandemic, many parents have tried online therapy. Sometimes you need to switch therapists to find one that can relate to your teen; however, you may get to a point when you realize it’s simply not working. 

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2. Outpatient therapy. This can be beneficial to some teens since it offers more clinical hours weekly. It also gives them group therapy which can be helpful. The one negative is they are still in their home environment and surrounded by their friends (if they are negative influences) as well as with their devices. Like with attending traditional talk therapy, your teen must be willing to attend, which can be another hurdle.

3. Short-term hospital stay. In some situations, a short-term adolescent psychiatric hospital can give you an evaluation that helps you with a diagnosis for your teen’s behavior and medication to address it. Will they continue the medication at home, and will they continue with therapy? Many parents (sadly) have placed their teenagers in the hospital for a short time, it rarely has any long-lasting impact on their behavior.

4. Teen Life coach/mentor. Coaching and mentoring are relatively a new trend being used by families to encourage your teen to make better choices. This would be a person that can help your teen navigate peer pressure, social media, friendships, and other issues (including family) that sometimes they have a hard time expressing with a traditional therapist. Some teenagers do not care for the stigma of a therapist, however, may welcome a teen life coach. It is something to consider before making the leap into a boarding school.

5.  Live with a relative. As a last resort, some parents allow their struggling teen to move-in with a relative to see if this improves their behavior. In some cases, the change of environment can help, the teen may have a different level of respect for this relative, but what some will find is it’s only a short-term resolution. At least it is another avenue before making the big decision of residential treatment.

If you’ve tried a few of these unsuccessfully and the school setting is failing, it is likely time to consider places to send troubled teens.

Time for Behavioral Boarding Schools

FIRST — It sounds scary, “schools for troubled teens,” because reality is, your teen isn’t really troubled as much as they need behavioral modification or emotional growth. The last thing you want is to place your teen out-of-their-element.  Another words, replace one set of negative behavior traits for another.

A simple online search for “schools for troubled teens” yields over 5 million results!  How do you know where to send your teen that would fit his/her unique needs?

There are many quality and safe therapeutic boarding schools in our county that help troubled teens. Coming to this decision isn’t easy, but it’s one that is in the best interest of your teenager.

Since 2001 we’ve helped parents find effective schools for troubled teens which includes:

Quality care (safe and positive environment), credentialed staff
Education, accredited academics
Enrichment programs, extra-curriculum designed to encourage change (animal, art, music or gardening therapy)
Parent involvement, workshops and family therapy

When a teen is removed from their devices and social media, negative peer group, triggers of home and academic stress and enrolled into a therapeutic setting, they can stop the downward spiral they have been experiencing and begin an upward positive course in a therapeutic boarding school.

Also read:

5 Benefits of Therapeutic Boarding Schools.

3 Reasons for Boarding Schools.

Cause of Teenage Mental Health Issues.

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Since 2001 we’ve been helping parents find the right therapeutic boarding schools for their troubled teens. Contact us for a free consultation.

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Searching for Schools for Troubled Teens Online https://helpyourteens.com/searching-for-schools-for-troubled-teens/ Sun, 16 Apr 2023 20:56:47 +0000 https://helpyourteens.com/?p=35531 When you need for help for your troubled teenager, the internet is one of the first places parents will turn to. Searching for schools for troubled teens online can be confusing, daunting, and outright scary — especially when you are stressed out. A simple online search for “schools for troubled teens” yields over 5 million results! […]

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When you need for help for your troubled teenager, the internet is one of the first places parents will turn to. Searching for schools for troubled teens online can be confusing, daunting, and outright scary — especially when you are stressed out.

A simple online search for “schools for troubled teens” yields over 5 million results! How do you navigate where to send your troubled teenager?

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You have come to realization that your teen needs a therapeutic boarding school, your local resources have failed however, now you’re facing the unknown world of the troubled teen industry and it can be a lot to unpack.

Our goal is to help you find the right boarding school for your troubled teen in a web of deception.

5 Steps to Untangle the Web of Fact, Fiction, and Misinformation

  1. Paid per click (PPC)

Is there one or more therapeutic boarding schools or schools for troubled teens that continues to show up as paid advertising repeatedly, no matter what keyword you put in your search engine? This can be a red flag. It is a lot of money being spent on marketing. Many programs with a longevity of success typically rely on their good reputation rather than employ sponsored listings.

There are no illusions about the size of the business of the troubled teen industry. You will quickly figure out who the major players are simply by putting in keywords about your teenager need helping and searching for treatment. The cost of sponsored ads on these search engines is not for small businesses – these are major corporations that are spending a lot of money marketing their facilities.

It’s wise to go past the sponsored listings and find out more about the organic results.

  1. Troubling Troubled Teen Websites

“The program I want to place my son is listed on a beware site.” – Parent of 13-year-old son

Today parents are bombarded with fearmongering websites designed to prevent them from getting help. They literally list just about every school and program as dangerous.  They are created by former students that were harmed in programs, and/or possibly parents that may have been disgruntled over a financial situation or even a contentious divorce where one parents wasn’t given access to their child.

We never diminish the experiences of victims that created these sites, but when a distressed parent is searching for help for their teenager – they become frightened to read some of the horror stories, as anyone would without being fully informed.

Parents need to learn how to evaluate these sites and platforms to put them into perspective so they can move forward with confidence in getting their teenager the help they need.

When former students or teens are on forums venting or sharing about their negative experiences, it can be upsetting for potential families to read. Here are some questions to ask yourself about the person commenting:

  • What program were they in? Is the program closed now?
  • Were there lawsuits brought against this program?
  • When were they placed into the program and for how long?
  • Why were they enrolled into a program?
  • How does their parent feel about their experiences?
  • Do they have a relationship with their parent/family now?

If the teen is alleging abuse or neglect, do a public records search to determine if there is a lawsuit against the program. Not all allegations end up in court so contact the local Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) and ask if they have any reports against the school. They may not be able to give you names, but they will know if there are reports filed against the program.

There are many programs and schools for troubled teens in our country, they are not going to please every one of their families. That doesn’t mean they’re allowed to harm children or defraud parents.

Side note: We are not by any means victim shaming, only helping parents that need help NOW better understand how to untangle some of the websites they may stumble on.

  1. Dissecting Online Reviews

Everyone has a right to write an online review.

“How do you suggest we navigate negative reviews and posts on social media?” – Dad of 14-year-old daughter

Online reviews are tricky, they are people’s opinions and experiences. As many of you realize, especially if you are business owners or professionals, it can take you 20 years to establish your good reputation and within 20 minutes it can be destroyed with one or two disgruntled client/customer reviews. Maybe they were legitimate complaints, maybe they were misunderstandings — either way you could potentially lose financially for a long time or a lifetime.

The teen help industry is not any different, but we do take it more seriously since it is about the treatment of our children. With this it is also more reason to understand that people will be more extreme and emotional when writing a review (likely a complaint) about a program.

If a parent had a negative experience, it could be a divorce situation that one parent was the custodial parent and moved forward with the placement as the other one did not have a say in the school. You will find that one disgruntled parent starts complaining about things in the program they do not have any knowledge of since the ex keeps them out of the loop. Sadly, it more has to do with poor family relations rather than program issues.

Another point of contention with parent complaints stem from financial reasons. If a parent believes they are owed money or have not been refunded properly, they will find things to complain about in hopes to be compensated. In some cases, a parent will remove their teen early (before graduation) or their teen is dismissed, and they expect a full refund. The contract they signed determines their reimbursement. When it comes to money, we know it can be extremely sensitive – so it is best to dig a bit deeper to find out exactly what the issues were.

Since we mainly see the negative online reviews, we always encourage parents to ask for parent references to hear more about how a program did help their teenager. You may think the school is only giving good references (which is true) but there are ways to ask questions to get some negative input — such as, “It seems your son had a very good experience at …., if you could change one thing about it, what would it be?” Or “Although your daughter seems to have done well, where do you think the school could improve?” Or “Was there anything that ever concerned you when your teen was at the school.”

Tip: Always remember, you can ask the owner or director of the program about online reviews. If they do not want to answer it or the answer isn’t satisfactory to you — that is your answer. You move on.

  1. Internet Misconception

I came across the following article that lists what is calls the top 20 therapeutic boarding schools, but at least 2 of the schools are very questionable? Please help me, we’re desperate.” Parent of 14-year-old

Deciphering the internet is the most difficult part of searching for schools for troubled teens. There are sites that will boast about “The Top 20 Therapeutic Boarding Schools” or “The Best Therapeutic Boarding Schools” however what they are is a clearing house of schools on paid directories. This is not in the best interest of your child, and in some cases connected to marketing arms that are paid to place you.

There has never been a third-party study done to determine the best therapeutic boarding schools, and the one survey that was done was paid by their own organizations. Another words, it has bias results. Learn more about how to determine success rates in programs without in-house (bias) studies. These lists are concerning since some of programs listed can be questionable.

  1. Placement Specialists

Who are the marketing arms that can be part of the extension of the paid directories and clearing houses of therapeutic boarding schools? It is remarkably like the people Sue Scheff (founder of P.U.R.E.™) learned about over two decades ago – placement specialists, typically they are not in the best interest of your child. It is about paid to place, rather than what is best for your teenager’s needs. They are based off a list of schools/programs that pay them fees.

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What they are good at – is marketing. You may have just become bait and will soon be inundated with emails from different programs and possibly text messages if you added your number. They will be sending your name and email to programs without qualifying your child as an appropriate fit for their school.

We encourage parents to talk directly to program owners and directors, the people that will be vested in your child’s recovery as well as the ones that will determine if their school is a fit for your family’s needs. The reputation of their program comes back to the success of your child – therefore it is crucial you speak with a program owner or director.

Tip: Did you notice a therapeutic boarding school that interests you? Find a direct contact (number or email) to that school, avoid going through third-party sites and toll-free numbers. 

Parents are their child’s biggest influence, but they are also their biggest advocate. Although you may not recognize your child at this moment, you are still their parent and will move mountains to find the right treatment for them.

Also read:

Goals of Therapeutic Boarding Schools.

5 Benefits of Therapeutic Boarding Schools.

Costs of Therapeutic Boarding Schools.

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If you’re confused by all the online deception, contact us for a free consultation. We help parents navigate the online confusion and get them on a path to quality and safe therapeutic settings.

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