It can be extremely frustrating and challenging to parents that raise their children with good morals, values and principles. You need help with your troubled teenager.

Does this describe your teen:

–Steals money from parents or others?
-Have they used your credit card online?
-Steals your car?
-Caught shoplifting? Or you found items s/he stolen from a store?
-Arrested for possession of drugs?
-Stolen alcohol, caught underage drinking?
-Lying to you about items new items they have?

4 Reasons Why Teens Steal

1. Peer pressure.

Teens want to belong; they want to fit-in — even if it means behaving badly. One of the biggest reasons teens steal is peer pressure — proving they are cool enough to hang out with a certain group or clique.

This is especially dangerous because if your teen can be convinced to break the law for petty theft, there is a strong possibility he or she can be convinced to try other, more dangerous behaviors, like drinking or drugs. It is because of this that it is imperative you correct this behavior before it escalates to something beyond your control.

2. Lack of funds.

It’s a want rather than a need, and they simply can’t afford it so they decide to steal an item. Teens are very peer influenced, and may feel that if they don’t have the ‘in’ sneakers or want alcohol, they’ll be considered less cool than the kids.

If your teen cannot afford these items, they may be so desperate to fit in that they steal the item. They may also steal money from you or a sibling to buy such an item. If you notice your teen has new electronics or accessories that you know you didn’t buy and they haven’t had a birthday recently — not to mention your teen doesn’t have a job or any source of money, you may want to ask about where these items came from.

3. It’s thrilling.

Teens may also steal simply for a thrill. Some young people are bored or testing the limits of authority — and steal for the thrill or the adrenaline rush. They may not even need or want the item they are stealing — but they are in it for the excitement. Often, friends accompanying teens who shoplift will act as a ‘lookout’ for their friend who is committing the theft.

Unfortunately, even if the lookout doesn’t actually steal anything, they can be prosecuted right along with the actual teen committing the crime, so it’s important that you make sure your teen is not aiding his or her friends who are shoplifting.

Maybe your teen is carrying drugs for another friend (as they tell parents when caught with substances — it’s never theirs) now you are facing possession of drugs, whether it’s at school or otherwise. What started out as being cool and thrilling, has ended up as being a disaster.

4. For attention.

Yet another reason teens steal is for attention. Negative attention is better than no attention. If your teen feels neglected at home, or is jealous of the attention a sibling is getting, he or she may steal in the hopes that they get caught and the focus of your attention is diverted to them.

If you suspect your teen is stealing or acting out to gain your attention, it is important that you address the problem before it garners more than just your attention, and becomes part of their criminal record.

Though unconventional, this is your teen’s way of asking for your help– don’t let them down!

Is your teen stealing from you or others? It’s time to seek professional help. Talk to a counselor — if your teen refuses to attend, you may want to find a mentor for them. If you have a relative they respect or a close friend of the family can be helpful. Typically, negative behavior stems from something deeper going on — hopefully they will open up with a therapist or a trusted adult before it escalates into something serious.

Read: 5 Benefits of Therapeutic Boarding Schools for Troubled Teens.

Read: Purpose of Boarding Schools for Troubled Teens.

Read: What Causes of Teenage Mental Health Issues?

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If your teen is facing legal consequences or you realize they are taking things that don’t belong to them, reach out for help.  If they refuse to attend or you have exhausted your local resources, please contact us for more information on therapeutic boarding schools.

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We frequently get calls from parents of teens being arrested or accused of stealing and/or shoplifting. Sometimes the stealing is isolated to your home – items in your house to the point that you are hiding your valuables (I’m confident some of you are shaking your head in agreement).   Why are they doing this, especially if they have the money to pay for it?

Too Young To Start

There are almost as many reasons teens steal as there are things for teens to steal. One of the biggest reasons teens steal is peer pressure. Often, teens will steal items as a means of proving’ that they are “cool enough” to hang out with a certain group. This is especially dangerous because if your teen can be convinced to break the law for petty theft, there is a strong possibility he or she can be convinced to try other, more dangerous behaviors, like drinking or drugs. It is because of this that it is imperative you correct this behavior before it escalates to something beyond your control.

Another common reason teens steal is because they want an item their peers have but they cannot afford to purchase. Teens are very peer influenced, and may feel that if they don’t have the ‘it’ sneakers or mp3 player, they’ll be considered less cool than the kids who do. If your teen cannot afford these items, they may be so desperate to fit in that they simply steal the item. They may also steal money from you or a sibling to buy such an item. If you notice your teen has new electronics or accessories that you know you did not buy them, and your teen does not have a job or source of money, you may want to address whereabouts they came up with these items.

Teens may also steal simply for a thrill. Teens who steal for the ‘rush’ or the adrenaline boost are often simply bored and/ or testing the limits of authority. They may not even need or want the item they’re stealing! In cases like these, teens can act alone or as part of a group.

Often, friends accompanying teens who shoplift will act as a ‘lookout’ for their friend who is committing the theft. Unfortunately, even if the lookout doesn’t actually steal anything, the can be prosecuted right along with the actual teen committing the crime, so its important that you make sure your teen is not aiding his or her friends who are shoplifting.

Yet another reason teens steal is for attention. If your teen feels neglected at home, or is jealous of the attention a sibling is getting, he or she may steal in the hopes that he or she is caught and the focus of your attention is diverted to them. If you suspect your teen is stealing or acting out to gain your attention, it is important that you address the problem before it garners more than just your attention, and becomes part of their criminal record. Though unconventional, this is your teen’s way of asking for your help- don’t let them down!

If they have escalated to a point that they are stealing from your home – usually this can mean they are in need of money. In most cases it is typically for drugs. Be sure you are reaching out to your teen and trying to engage in conversations. Communication is key to helping build your relationship and trust – yet sometimes it can be a struggle.

If parents take the proper measures, in most cases the stealing stops as the child grows older. Child and adolescent psychiatrists recommend that when parents find out their child has stolen, they:

• tell the child that stealing is wrong
• help the youngster to pay for or return the stolen object
• make sure that the child does not benefit from the theft in any way
• avoid lecturing, predicting future bad behavior, or saying that they now consider the child to be a thief or a bad person
• make clear that this behavior is totally unacceptable within the family tradition and the community

In treating a child who steals persistently, a mental health provider will evaluate the underlying reasons for the child’s need to steal, and develop a plan of treatment. Important parts of treatment can be helping the child form trusting relationships and helping the family to direct the child toward a healthier path of development.

Read: 5 Benefits of Boarding Schools for Troubled Teens.

Read: Goals of Behavior Modification Programs for Teens.

Read: Why Residential Therapy Works.

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If you are struggling with your teenager and have exhausted your local resources, learn more about how residential treatment can help your troubled teen make better choices. Contact us today for  a free consultation.

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