There’s no app for parenting teens online today—yet according to a 2022 PEW Research survey, 95 percent of teens have access to a smartphone while almost half (46 percent), claim they are online constantly.

A national survey conducted by Screen Education finds that teens are so troubled by their smartphone addiction that they want to reduce their screen time.

• 68 percent of teens have attempted to reduce the amount of time they spend on their phone.
• 89 percent of teens find it upsetting when they witness online bullying.
• 36 percent of teens witness someone being bullied online weekly.
• 73 percent of teens feel that social media contributes to conditions that can result in school shootings.
• 45 percent of teens witness online drama everyday.
• 38 percent of teens witness online gossip everyday.
• 57 percent of teens are disturbed when they witness someone being gossiped about.
• 42 percent of teens are fearful of being gossiped about.

This is a small portion of the results of the Screen Education survey.

According to the research, although teens want to take a break or even stop using their smartphone, they soon realize it’s not possible. Many engage in what the Screen Education survey noted as “cycling.“

Cycling is the compulsion to consecutively go through a small set of favorite apps or sites to seek new notifications, at any opportunity, over and over again. Seventy percent of teens admit to have 3-5 apps or sites they continuously cycle through at any opportunity.

Can schools and parents help?

Teens have always been a challenge whether we are a generation of technology or our parents’ world with rotary phones and busy signals, however what hasn’t changed is the fact that young people need and want boundaries.

The Screen Education survey revealed that 67 percent of teens attend schools that ban smartphone use during class and over half (53 percent) are grateful for this. Forty-one percent of teens admit that their addiction to smartphones is hurting them academically. Over a quarter of teens (26 percent) wish that someone (either their parent or school) would impose reasonable screen time limits on them.

What can you do to reduce screen time?

1. Lead by example: What are your smartphone habits? Are you checking your emails while at the dinner table or with friends, maybe while talking with your teenager?
2. Turn off notifications: Every beep, bell, ding or other noise from your gadget can be stress triggers, especially for a teenager. Majority of teens (58 percent) believe they have to respond to these notifications immediately. Forty-one percent of teens admitted feeling overwhelmed by notifications in general.
3. Smartphone Contract: Maybe it’s time to revisit a contract with your teen about screen time limits. From online bullying, academic performance and emotional well-being the survey noted that 80 percent of teens spend time on their phone after they go to bed. Losing this much sleep likely impacts their cognitive function, learning and more.
4. Device free time: Make a diligent effort to have family time when everyone is disconnected and without their devices. From short trips to the mall to long days at the beach or even weekends without digital interruptions. You design your weekly device-free family time.
5. Online verses Offline: Make a habit (make it happen) to meet your close friends regularly face-to-face. Sixty-nine percent of teens wish they could socialize in person rather than online with their friends.

How will you start your digital detox?

Read: How to Change Your Teen’s Tech Habits.

Read: Why removing your teens’ devices isn’t always the answer.

Read: How Much Is Too Much Screen Time?

Read: How Cyberbullying Effects Teenage Mental Health.

Read: 5 Benefits of Therapeutic Boarding Schools.

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As long as there are smartphones and digital devices, sadly we will probably always be dealing with online hate and harassment. The fact is, this is human behavior – it’s not something that we can raise money for, find a cure and finally eradicate, like we are about to witness with polio.

Research is showing a rise in cyberbullying and this is causing emotional and physical concerns for young people. Nearly one third of teens have experienced symptoms of depression, which, in addition to changes in sleep pattern, include persistent irritability, anger and social withdrawal, according to the U.S. Office of Adolescent Health.

In a University of Buffalo study, nearly 15 percent of US high school students report being bullied electronically. At severe levels, depression may lead to disrupted school performance, harmed relationships or suicide.

Misol Kwon, the first author of this recent research said:

“Cyber victimization on the internet and social media is a unique form of peer victimization and emerging mental health concern among teens who are digital natives.” said Kwon. “Understanding these associations supports the need to provide sleep hygiene education and risk prevention and interventions to mistreated kids who show signs and symptoms of depression.”

Be an educated digital parent about cyberbullying and mental health

ould you know if your child is being harassed online? Here are a few signs parents need to be aware of:

• He/she suddenly stops using the computer or phone, even though he’s always enjoyed it before.
• He/she doesn’t want to use the computer/phone in a place where you can see it.
• He/she turns off the computer monitor or changes screens every time you walk by.
• He/she seems nervous or jumpy when he gets an instant message, text or email.
• He/she alludes to bullying indirectly by saying something like “there’s a lot of drama at school” or “I have no friends.”
• He/she doesn’t want to go to school or appears uneasy about going.
• He/she becomes withdrawn.
• He/she changes eating habits.

It helps to understand why some tweens and teens don’t tell parents when bad things happen:

1)  Fear of consequences: Your child’s online existence is a critical part of their social life. With all their friends online, being excluded would be devastating them. They don’t want to risk you banning them from their friends and their digital lives.

2)  Humiliation and embarrassment: Our kids are human and have feelings. Although some kids portray a tough persona and believe they are invincible, deep down everyone feels hurt by cruel keystrokes. Your teen may fear looking stupid or weak.

3)  Fear of making it worse: We have taught our children well so they understand that bullies are looking for attention. By reporting the incident of cyberbullying to a parent, your child may fear it could anger the bully and make matters worse for them online. In some cases bullies will enlist more online trolls to cyber-mob your child. Of course the child’s dreaded fear is his or her parent reporting it to their school or camp and more people knowing whereby they become a possible target in the future.

Developing digital resilience

Today our kids consider their digital life as important as their lives offline, so it’s important to give them as much knowledge and encouragement to know they are not alone when they are faced with cyber-hate.

1. Prepare them for the ugly side of the Internet or possibly being upset by what people say. Remind them it could be inappropriate content that slips through filters. Being forewarned is being forearmed.
2. Show them how to block individuals, flag and report abusive content, and when to report incidents. Emphasize the importance of telling someone “in real life.”
3. Show your teen how easily digital pictures can be manipulated. The realization that not everything is what it seems is a useful first step – understanding that life is not as perfect as it may seem virtually. Teens may be familiar with the digital world but less familiar with the motivations for creating ‘fake’ images.
4. Help them to think through the possible consequences of what they post online. Remind them that there is no rewind online, once it’s posted it’s nearly impossible to take back. Fifteen minutes of humor is not worth a lifetime of humiliation.
5. Encourage your teen to socialize in person with their friends. Communicating solely behind a screen can be isolating. Socializing in person builds more face-to-face contact in helping your child have empathy and compassion towards people.

Never doubt, your kids might be an app ahead of you, but they will always need your offline parenting wisdom.

Also read:

Where to Send My Troubled Teenager.

5 Benefits of Boarding Schools for Troubled Teens.

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